Your Relationship with Your Vagina
Vagina. Vajayjay. Lady Bits. The Yoniverse.
Whatever you call that cute piece of real estate between your thighs, it’s up to you and you to decide.
Your relationship with your vagina is one of the most important that you will have in your life. This wonderful reproductive organ holds the keys to immense pleasure, the possibility of pain and shame, the ability to bring life into this world, and much more.
How you relate to your vagina can help determine how some of these scenarios are playing out, or how you are moving away from them.
We get it, it’s complicated! Since female bodies are constantly being oversexualized, politicized, and exploited, one of the most powerful things a woman can do is take responsibility for the relationship with your reproductive system.
That is why we’re here to share some helpful questions, activities, and insights on how to strengthen your relationship with your vagina.
First, we need to clarify some terminological questions you may have. While vagina is the popular anatomical word, technically it just refers to the inner canal where things go in and out.
The more precise term is typically the vulva, which describes the entire outer area including the inner and outer lips and the clitoris. We can use these words interchangeably or appropriately depending on the context.
Having accurate scientific language while also including any slang that feels empowering to you is an important part of maintaining your relationship with your vulva.
Do you have an active journaling practice? If not, it may be time to pick up that dusty old notebook.
Many people never give themselves time and space to think about their vagina, especially outside of a sexual or health context.
Here is your chance.
Think of this activity as a story or a love letter to your vulva. How exactly do you write a love letter to her vagina? Well, it’s your letter and your body – so you have to decide.
Of course we are here to assist you with any questions.
What feelings do you experience when you look at, touch, or think about your vagina?
Do you feel excited Nervous? Earned? Switched on? Fascinated? Confused? Hopeful? All, all, or none of these feelings are completely normal and okay. Your feelings about your vagina may not be easy, and that is completely understandable. Writing them down will help you sort them out and understand years of accumulated emotions.
What were some of the most formative experiences that shaped your relationship with your vulva?
What was the first time you became aware of what it is? The first time that you and someone else have enjoyed your vulva. Have you ever experienced trauma or discomfort related to your vagina? When do you feel the most empowered about your vulva?
What blockages can you solve when it comes to your vagina?
Is there something that you hold onto that you want to let go of? Any stories or patterns that no longer serve you? If you can relate to them, one of the first steps is to realize what those blocks are and that it is time for them to go.
Create mantras towards your vagina.
These could be statements that you repeat to yourself every day or those that you turn to when you feel a little baffled.
Here are some examples…
“I take the power in my pleasure.”
“Sexual health is self-love.”
“My body, my rules.”
Write a love letter
Another way to write about your vulva is to write a love letter. This can include all or some of the questions and mantras we have listed about, or it can be completely free from. Whatever feelings of gratitude and love arise, let them flow through your pen on paper.
Do anything that feels right with this letter – burn it, take it to sea, or frame it above your bed!
Now that you’ve had some time to think about your relationship with your vagina, it’s time to take action.
Find out all about it!
Tell me now – education strengthens!
Learning about the different parts of your vagina and how they work will help demystify and remove any confusion or scars that you may have around them.
You can Learn more about your cervixand how to examine your own. Turn on these amazing facts about women. mental breakdown these common uncertainties People have about their vagina. The Intimina blog has a variety of resources to help you expand your vaginal education.
What other steps can you take to strengthen and heal your relationship with your vagina? With a practical approach!
If you’ve never looked at your vulva up close, try a hand mirror or in front of a full-length mirror. You can try this with no destination in sight, just to explore. It helps to see your vulva and cervix at different stages of your cycle and at different levels of arousal. Many things can change, such as: B. the height of the cervix, the enrichment of the labia, the color and much more.
We understand that this topic can be provocative or difficult for a variety of reasons. If you experience uncomfortable feelings, we encourage you to seek support from your peers, loved ones, and / or professional help.
Natasha’s passion for reproductive health began at the age of fourteen when she was present at the birth of her youngest sister. Her incredible experiences as a birthing doula gave her insights into the magical realm of childbirth, pregnancy and everything in between. Your role as an obstetrician is her way of serving as an activist. She uses writing as an important educational tool to bring about changes in our view of reproductive health as a whole.